Spending Time Versus Investing Time
It’s 2019 and everyone is busier than ever. Our schedules are jam packed with work responsibilities, our kids’ activities, preparing dinner, helping the kids with homework and more.

Many times, we blink and its noon, then we blink again, and its dinner time. Days turn into weeks that turn into months like that!

All of us are spending time doing a variety of things but few of us are investing time in the most important person in the world…you!

We’ve all heard the popular self-development phrase, “Don’t confuse activity with accomplishment”. The reality is it is difficult to find time to invest in us.
It’s difficult but not impossible! In fact, I believe it is necessary to live a successful, joyful, and fulfilled life.

Think of it this way. When you get on an airplane, the pilot says in case of an emergency, put the oxygen mask on you first before helping others. Seems weird because most parents would help their kids first.

The reality is if you can’t breathe comfortably, you won’t be able to help anyone else for long.

So, investing time in yourself must be a top priority! Still not convinced?

When do you get the most frustrated and overwhelmed? When you feel there are not enough hours in the day. Me too!

What I have found is that my morning routine is paramount to me having a great day and being the best Shihan, husband, father, teacher, son, and friend, I can.

Every morning I do a few things to get my day off on the right foot. I read for 30 minutes on something positive, educational, and inspirational. I then re-write my goals to keep me focused on the things that matter.

Next, I review my plan for the day so I make sure I get the most important tasks done that will move me in the direction of goal achievement. Your workout for the day is a must. Schedule it!

You wouldn’t blow off a doctor’s appointment or a meeting with your kids’ teacher, would you? So, don’t cancel the appointment with yourself to make you stronger, healthier, and more energized.

Schedule time to learn. That could be listening to a podcast or an audiobook while you drive. We call that NET time – No Extra Time! It could be jumping on a webinar, attending a seminar or conference, etc.

Next, make sure you schedule time to achieve the key results to move your business and career to the next level.

My mentors and the people I look up to are fanatical about their calendar. They schedule everything to make sure they fit it all in. They schedule time to learn, to exercise, to work on their goals, to spend with family and friends, and even to sit down on the couch and watch a movie.
That’s called planned procrastination! :)

Success coach Tony Robbins says that we are all happiest when we are making progress in life. The journey to far more important than the results. When we are making progress toward a goal, we are excited, motivated, and feel good.

I hope these reminders serve you and help you on your path to health, wealth, and happiness.

Thank you for being a part of the Elite Force family!


True Failure is Failing to Try
Sara Blakely is the founder of Spanx, a billion-dollar clothing company. When she was younger, her father would ask her every day at the dinner table what she tried that day and if she failed or not.  

This may seem like a peculiar thing for a parent to ask, however he knew that if she wasn’t trying new things and failing, she would never reach her potential. He knew that she needed to regularly step out of her comfort zone and push herself to the limit.
Her father defined true failure as failing to try.

“It just took away my fear of trying,” she said. Down and out in a dead-end office-products sales job, Blakely invested all the money she had in the world, $5,000, and set out to create body wear that would work for her.

“I must have heard ‘no’ a thousand times,” she said. But she didn’t listen. In addition to the $5,000 she invested, she saved $3,000 (which she didn’t have) on legal fees by writing her own patent from a textbook.

Ultimately, the company she founded, Spanx, created an entirely new category of products called “shapewear” and has inspired a cult like following among women worldwide.

With Oprah Winfrey’s blessing, Spanx turned from a small business into a worldwide sensation. Today Spanx is worth over a billion dollars, and the brand now includes over 200 products that help women look and feel great. Ever the optimist, she also started Spanx for men, and it has taken off!
Today, Blakely owns 100% of her company, has zero debt, and has never taken on an outside investment. In 2012 Time magazine named her one of its “100 Most Influential People in the World.”

Our Elite Force Jiu-Jitsu Head Coach, Alexandre Pimentel AKA “Pulga”, is a multiple time Jiu-Jitsu World Champion, Brazilian Champion, Victory FC Featherweight Champion, and an ADCC Champion.

What most people don’t know was that 23 years ago when he was a Blue Belt (the 2nd belt in the adult belt system), he competed in every tournament he could and never won a single match.

This losing streak lasted all 3 years he was a Blue Belt. Was he a failure? Hell no!

Every time he stepped in the ring, he tried his best, and learned. He learned what worked and what didn’t. He learned to handle pressure situations, and he learned to stay calm in the eye of the storm.

He reminds us often in class that when you lose, it’s never a loss and always a lesson.

True failure is failing to try. I’m sure all of us can think of a few areas in our life where we can push the envelope. My encouragement is to check your ego at the door and try.

You will either be successful, or you will learn something valuable that you will take to your next attempt.

Remember the children’s book “The Little Engine That Could”? That is not just a children’s book. It is a great life philosophy!

Thank you for being a part of the Elite Force family!

Do What You Say - Congruency
We all know people whose word is their bond. When they say they are going to do something or be somewhere, they make it happen. They exemplify congruency.

We all know others that talk a good game and that’s about it. They never show up, never get the job done, etc. I’m sure they have good intentions; however, they more often that not, fall short.

Why is that? Why do some people follow through and others say they will but fall short?

I think there are two main reasons. First is Clarity. High performers know exactly what they want and what they are willing to do to make it happen. They are crystal clear about the goal. They are dedicated and driven.

I have a good friend like this, Bill Storm. Bill is consistent as the day is long. He shows up for Jiu-Jitsu class every day, he maintains a consistent work schedule, and always follows through on what he says he will do.

Bill is very clear about his goals. He has a clear vision of where he wants his life to be in one year, three years, and 5 years.

I think the second reason people are congruent with what they say and do is reasons. They know why they want their goals and are driven by that.
For many, they want a better future filled with better health, relationships, finances, and more. They know why they are working so hard and how they will benefit when they achieve the goal.

I once heard the story of a many who was 150 pounds overweight. He tried and tried but could never lose any weight.

Now we all know losing weight is a simple task, exercise more and eat less. Sure, it’s a simple task, but it’s not an easy one.

Later, his daughter got sick and needed a new kidney. He was tested and found out he was a match to donate one of his kidneys. The challenge was the Doctor said he could not do the surgery on the man because he was too heavy. The guy said he would do anything.

The Doctor said you have 9 months to lose 125 pounds. Guess what? Nine months later, the man successfully lost the 125 pounds. Why? He knew what he wanted, and he had a strong reason why he had to make it happen.

I want you to think about you. What are your goals, and more importantly, your compelling reasons to reach the next level? When you identify those, watch out! The magic will happen. You will be driven into action and compelled to do whatever it takes to achieve the goal!


The Right Way to Praise Kids
If you are a parent, you know how important it is to help your child develop confidence. It’s everything! For your child to reach their potential, they have to believe in themselves and feel good about who they are.

Here is what most parents do. They say things like, “You are so beautiful. You are so talented. You are so skilled.” If you are a parent, I’m sure you have said things like this to your child. I know I have.

Giving your child compliments is not a bad thing, however it is not the best way to praise kids, so they develop real confidence.

There was an 18-year study done at Stanford University, and the study found that complimenting your child feels good to them in the moment, but when they deal with the inevitable obstacles or challenges in life, they will panic because they will start to think it’s not true.

In fact, when kids that were praised like that were given a difficult test, 40% of them lied about their score because it was incongruent with who they thought they were. That’s right - 40%!

The study found that the best way to praise kids was based upon their efforts. In other words, when parents praise a child’s creativity, follow through, disciplined habits, and non-quitting spirit, the child develops real confidence.

The reason this works is because their efforts are what will stick with them as they get older and deal with the next set of challenges. They can always rely on their creativity, their disciplined habits, their follow through to help them overcome the current problem.

I have seen this happen many times at our martial arts schools. For example, we have a student, Nicholas Melo, that was born with low muscle tone. In other words, he was born with less muscle than a normal kid.

He came to the dojo and fell in love with it. When it came time to do the necessary fitness testing, he had a hard time initially. His parents, Marcelo and Simone, were smart though. They reminded him that he doesn’t give up on things. That he is incredibly disciplined and focused.

They encouraged him and told him if he was disciplined at practicing every day, he would be able to make the fitness standard. And guess what? He sure did, and he did it with flying colors!

Fast forward to now, and Nicholas is a confident 15-year-old 2nd Degree Black Belt with greatness in his future!

I’m reading a book right now called “Outwitting the Devil” by Napoleon Hill. In the book, he talks about how drifters (people who just go through life with no real passion or aim) come into a failure or setback and they think it is final. In other words, they think there is nothing they can do about it.
However, there is a big difference between a temporary setback and a permanent failure. If a child knows that he or she is resilient and creative, they will rely on their ability to figure things out.

New York Times best-selling author, Brendon Burchard says that high performers in life are not necessarily the smartest people or have all the answers. They are the people that believe strongly in their ability to figure things out. In other words, they are tenacious, persistent, and driven to find a way to achieve their goal.

They will ask questions, work hard, study, and try repeatedly to figure it out until they are successful.

In summary, giving anyone a compliment is always a nice gesture, and I’m sure it will be appreciated. But when praising your child, focus on their efforts, and overtime they will develop the true, unshakeable confidence that will last for many years to come!

As always, thank you for being a part of the Elite Force family!

Are You Living Your Dreams or Is FEAR Holding You Back?
As I write this, we are preparing for the April 2019 Black Belt Spectacular, which is our Black Belt graduation ceremony/demonstration. We hold it at the Township Center of the Performing Arts in Coconut Creek, and we almost always sell it out.

Black Belt Spectaculars are like the holidays for me because we get to celebrate our student’s accomplishments and their many years of dedication towards their martial arts training.

I can’t help but feel grateful that I took a risk back when I was 26 years old. Back then I had a pretty good life. I had bought a house at 25, had a nice car, a motorcycle, a good job making good money, and I lived very close to many good friends and my family.

Everything was great on the surface, but there was something going on inside of me. Every day I sprinted home from work to get ready to teach at the dojo. I still taught part-time just for fun, and I was still training 4-5 days per week.

One day I remember leaving work at 5:00 and got home as fast as I could. I went in the bathroom and looked in the mirror and thought, “Is this all there is to life? There has to be more.”

That’s when I made the decision to pursue the martial arts as a career. It’s what I loved and what I felt I was meant to do. On top of all that, I wanted to do it in South Florida, not Syracuse, NY. 
Then the doubts settled in. I would have to quit my job, sell my house, find a spot in Florida, etc. Was I crazy to give up a good job like that? My parents certainly thought so, and they preceded to tell me!

None the less, I had to try. If it didn’t work out, I could always move back to Syracuse and figure something out.

Scared and unsure, I made the move, and through a lot of hard work, determination, and luck, everything worked out. Here we are almost 16 years later, and I am living the life of my dreams. I get to do martial arts for a living!

My question for you is are you living your dreams? Is there a goal you still want to achieve? Is there a business you want to start?

I am a BIG believer in personal development. I read 2-4 books per month. I once heard the story of how Jeff Bezos started Amazon.

Jeff already had a great job making great money. He told his boss about his idea to start this online book store. His boss thought it was a good idea, but he thought it was a good idea for someone that didn’t already have a good job.

Before turning in is resignation, his boss urged him to take the weekend to think it through. Jeff went home and thought. He had already had the support of is wife.

Jeff thought about himself at 90 years old sitting on his front porch looking back on his life. He realized right then that he was okay with trying the business and failing, but he could not live with the idea of never trying.

He knew his 90-year-old self would have major regrets not trying this idea. So, in the end, Jeff Bezos said the decision to start Amazon was a fairly easy one.

It was 7 years of hard work, dealing with failures, dedication, and drive. Yet he made it and changed all our lives in the process. Do you know anyone that does not have an Amazon Prime account?

Look at how he changed the world of shopping, and how he set a new standard of free shipping when ordering something online. He is a game changer!
Is there a goal or dream that you might regret not trying when you are older? The sad truth is we only get one chance on this game of life, and we all have to make it count.

I once heard that the acronym for FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real. I also heard that when God wants to give us a gift, he disguises it as hard work.

I hope this article gets you thinking a little, and it encourages you to do some soul searching, dreaming, and planning.

Thank you for taking the time to read this and thank you for being a part of the Elite Force family!



Focus on the Positive Point
I was reading a story about a group of kids going on a white-water rafting trip in Durango, Colorado. When the kids arrived, the guide informed the group that the rapids were higher and stronger than they had been in several years. 

Rapids range on a scale of 1 to 5 with 5 being the strongest and most aggressive. The kids were about to embark on a trip with mostly level 4 rapids. Of course, the guide had the kids do many drills and exercises to prepare them for the trip and to ensure their safety before they left.

The most important point the guide drilled into them was the idea of the “positive point”.

He explained to the boys that he would always point to where he wanted them to go, and he would never point to where he didn’t want them to go. He said he would never point at the downed tree or the jagged rock that could puncture the raft.

He reminded the kids that the most important thing was to focus on where they wanted to go and not where they didn’t want to go. He also explained that if he warned them about the jagged rocks or the downed trees, they would surely look at them in fear and move right toward them.

Focusing on the “positive point” got the kids to focus on the solution (steering to a clearing) and not the problem (crashing into the rocks).

This exact strategy is what holds a lot of people back from achieving their big goals and dreams. They put their focus on what they don’t want or what they are afraid of.

You may have a dream of starting your own business, but your focus is on how hard it will be and how you could lose money. You may have a goal to run a marathon, but you tell yourself all the reasons why you can’t do it. You might be thinking, “I don’t have enough time to train. I have a bad knee. I’m not built for running.”

This is putting your focus on the jagged rocks versus the positive point.

Now surely, this strategy is a lot easier said than done, as is most things in life. But none the less, it does work. You may initially start focusing on the challenges and obstacles, but over time you start to look for the solution and that becomes your dominant focus.

Author Dean Graziosi says, “When you focus on the outcome rather than the obstacle, your life will never be the same.”

I’m going to challenge you to start thinking about your goals and dreams. Where do you want to go? What would you like to achieve? Of course, there will be challenges along the way, but don’t focus on them. Focus on where you want to go and what you need to do to make that goal a reality.

Tony Robbins told the story of when he was learning to drive professional race cars. He was in a simulator and the instructor told him if you start to slide or lose control, immediately focus on where you want to go. He also said to never look at the wall!

Sure enough, Tony started sliding and he saw the wall and fixated on it in fear. Sure enough, he crashed!

As he got more and more experienced, he conditioned himself to focus on where he wanted to go and became a very skilled driver.

There are many successful people in the world, and many of them are no smarter than you and I. The difference is they conditioned themselves to focus on the positive point despite temporary disappointments and setbacks.

2019 could be your best year ever. Where is your positive point? What do you need to do to move in that direction, and make your dreams come true?

Thank you for being a part of the Elite Force family!



Life is a Fight! Do You Believe You Can Win?
We are in a brand-new year, and everyone is busy setting their New Year’s resolutions. I love New Year’s because it’s a chance to start fresh and make some big momentum towards your goals and dreams. 

The sad part is that only 4% of people follow through on their resolutions…that’s it! I know I have set some lofty resolutions in the past only to fall of track a couple weeks after January 1st.

So why do most people fall off track? There are many reasons, but one stands out to me right away.

If you are going to achieve some big goals and make this year your best year so far, you have to start in an empowered state. Meaning, deep down, many people don’t feel they can achieve what they want to achieve. It seems to far out of reach.

Some people make excuses, some people don’t believe they are worthy, smart enough, disciplined enough, or capable of greatness. These people set these goals and once the excitement of New Year’s wears off, they fall back into old habits and patterns that don’t lead to where they want to go. 

So, what should we do? I think the key is to start by reminding yourself of your greatness. That’s right! Spend some time focusing on your strengths, what you are good at, and what you have achieved in the past.

When you start thinking about your best qualities and past victories, your self-esteem goes up, you feel encouraged, motivated and capable of great results.

Here are a few questions to think about:
1. What are your Awesome Accomplishments?
Focus on all the incredible things you have achieved so far. This could be awards in school or awesome grades if you are a kid. It could be a promotion at work or a project you pushed through to completion.
What fitness achievements have you had? What progress have you made that you are possibly taking for granted?
When you remind yourself of your past greatness, your confidence will go up!

2. What’s cool about you?
Your biggest asset is your personality. Everyone has positive traits and skills that make them unique and different. What are some of yours? Are you a neat person? Do you like to read? Are you a good friend? A good listener?
Are you patient and kind with everyone?
Take a moment and think about all your cool qualities. I’ll bet there is a lot!

3. What are your strengths?
There is a myth that to be your best and move to the next level, you have to work on your weaknesses. That is totally untrue! We aren’t good at our weaknesses, and they are no fun to work on.
Instead, identify your strengths and unique abilities. Everyone has things they are good at!
Are you disciplined and punctual? Are you a good planner? Are you good at managing money? Sales and marketing? Are you encouraging with other people? Kids: Are you a good test taker? Is your homework neat and organized? Are you good at sports?  
Focusing on your strengths will make the journey to achievement more fun, faster, and you will go much further!
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These exercises are designed to get you to realize you have GREATNESS in you already! Most of the time, people focus on what they aren’t good at and their shortcomings. Instead, focus on the awesomeness in you – it’s there! Go out and celebrate it!


What is Influencing You?
As I look back at what a great year 2018 was, and I start setting my goals and making my plans for 2019, I am reminded of a quote by the legendary late author, Charlie “Tremendous” Jones. The quote is… 

“You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read.”

When you truly think about that statement, you have to agree with it 100%. The people you surround yourself with has a huge impact on the person you will become. When you hang around whiners, complainers, and overall pessimistic people, you can’t help but feel less motivated to make great things happen.

There is story of the crabs in the bucket. The crabs should be able to escape but they can’t because they keep pulling each other down. That’s what happens when you hang around the wrong people.

As I take inventory of the people I am surrounded by, I have to count my blessings because they are incredible people. They motivate me, inspire me, and help me grow to the next level.

I have a friend that I train with nearly every day who is this type of person. We got our Black Belts in Karate together back in 1990 in Syracuse, NY. I moved to South Florida in 2003 to open Elite Force Martial Arts. He moved to Florida around 2010. We re-connected and started training in Jiu-Jitsu together. His name is Bill Storm.

Bill is one of those extremely optimistic, positive people who takes a lot of action towards his goals. He lives by the philosophy of, “Don’t wait. Create!” He’s the type of guy that doesn’t wait to see what happens. He goes out and creates what he wants. When things get tough, he honors the struggle, brings the joy, and keeps moving forward.

Because of his mindset, he has built a very successful digital marketing business with Click Funnels, he is in great shape, and has a wonderful family.
Who are you hanging around? Who is influencing you?

Next, let’s focus on the books you read. I saw a statistic by Jim Kwik, renowned brain coach, that the average American reads only 2-3 books per year, yet the average CEO reads 4-5 books per month. WOW!

I was fortunate to have a mentor early in life influence me to start reading personal development books every morning to get my mindset right for the day. He said all leaders, are great readers!

I can’t even begin to explain the impact this has had on my positive attitude, daily habits, and actions I take.

Some of my favorite books are:
• The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
• Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
• High Performance Habits by Brendon Burchard
• Millionaire Success Habits by Dean Graziosi
• The Go-Giver series by Bob Burg and John David Mann
• The 10X Rule by Grant Cardone

I think of reading as doing mental push-ups. We need to strengthen our bodies with exercise, and we need to strengthen our mind with reading. I am doing my best to instill the reading habit in my daughter at an early age, so she falls in love with reading the way I have.

Want to be a better reader? Here are a couple strategies to consider:
1. Schedule time everyday to read. I schedule 20-30 minutes every morning to read. When it’s in the calendar, it gets done. Make an appointment with yourself. You wouldn’t blow off a doctor’s appointment or an appointment with your child’s teacher, would you?
2. Eliminate distractions. Go to a quiet room, go to the beach, or some where you can focus.
3. Treat your book like a workbook. Take notes, highlight in it, dog ear pages, etc. Don’t think about getting through the book, instead think, what can I get from this book? Big difference!
4. Be patient. It will take time to build your reading muscles if you are not in the habit. Start slow and you will improve over time.
5. Use NET time, meaning NO EXTRA TIME. Listen to an audiobook while you drive, exercise, walk the dog, etc. You can kill two birds with one stone!

I wish you success, happiness, and abundance in 2019. Let’s go out there and crush it! The best is yet to come!

Starting Over
Over the years, I have spoken to many people who have talked about trying new things or changing their careers, but something seems to hold them back.  

One of the things we know for sure is we don’t like what we are not good at. The idea of starting a new workout routine or activity can be frightening because we don’t want to look stupid, and of course, we don’t want to get hurt.

A little over 8 years ago, I did just that. I started a new style of martial arts for me called Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. I have been doing Kempo Karate since I was 10 years old (I’m 41 right now), and I have been doing Muay Thai Kickboxing for the past 23 years.

Jiu-Jitsu is referred to as the “gentle art”. It was designed to teach smaller, less athletic people how to defend themselves against larger, stronger attackers using leverage and technique, not strength.

Jiu-Jitsu is mostly on the ground, not standing. Now, I never wrestled as a kid, so this was unchartered waters for me to say the least!
I wasn’t that good when I started Kempo back in 1987, and I can tell you I was not God’s gift to Jiu-Jitsu. Far from it!

I wasn’t very good at all. I had a hard time learning the techniques and positions in the beginning, and I made mistake after mistake. Thankfully my instructors were patient with me!

Currently I am a Brown Belt, and hopefully in the next few years, I will earn my Black Belt. Fingers crossed!

The cool thing about this process was that I learned (and was reminded) of a lot of valuable life lessons that have made me a better teacher, business person, spouse, and parent.

1. Every Master Was Once a Disaster
Everyone that starts something new isn’t that good in the beginning. We all learn through making mistakes, trial and error, and through feedback. I had to learn to let my ego fly out the door and just focus on enjoying the learning process.
I had to learn to give myself a break and take the pressure off. When I did that, I relaxed and had a lot of fun!

2. Patience Grasshopper
This process reminded me what it was like to be a beginner again. I was making silly mistakes just like the ones I see beginners make in our regular Karate/Kickboxing program. I became WAY MORE patient and understanding. And because of that, I was able to relate to them deeper and help them accelerate their progress along the way.

I also became a far more patient father to my awesome little girl, Alexa Rae. I would just get out of class making some unintentional errors and goof ball mistakes, so when my daughter did stuff like that at home or playing a sport, I was a much more supportive, loving dad.

3. Progress, not Perfection
Starting a new style of martial arts at 34 years old reminded me that life is all about progress, not being perfect. Everyone runs their own race. Everyone is on their own path. Everyone starts at a different age, stage, and background.
I learned to “keep my eyes on my own paper” and not compare myself to others. Instead, I learned to get inspired by others, but not compare myself to others.

4. Failure is an Event, not a Person
We all fail, mess up, and don’t meet our own expectations of ourselves. That is life! It happens in sports, business, fun activities, and more. Allow yourself the gift of giving yourself a break!

Think of it this way. It’s never a loss, always a lesson! When you look at every mistake and time you screwed up as a learning opportunity, you put a positive spin on it, and you enjoy the process more.

I heard a story about Thomas Edison when he was in the process of making the light bulb work. Legend has it that he failed about a thousand times before it finally worked. He said, “I didn’t fail all those times. I successfully found out a lot of ways that did not work!” Great mindset! I need to drink what he is drinking! 😊

I think that is one of the big secrets to goal achievement…fall in love with the process. When you do that, you experience more joy, happiness, and camaraderie with others.

In the end, this process of starting over motivated me to open Elite Force BJJ in addition to our existing Karate/Muay Thai program.

Never stop learning, trying, and growing. The best is yet to come!

10X Your Life
There has been a lot written about setting goals, working hard, and never giving up. Just about everything you read has some validity and makes sense. I think we have all heard the acronym for SMART Goals: 
• Specific
• Measurable
• Attainable
• Realistic
• Time dated

That is all well and good, however most people will look at the attainable and realistic piece of that and limit themselves. They will start thinking, “Well, this goal isn’t realistic for me. Sure, Jeff Bezos or Richard Branson can hit much higher levels, but they are Jeff Bezos and Richard Branson.”

I’m going to encourage you to 10X your goals and your life! What is 10X you ask? It is enhancing your life, your goals, your lifestyle by a factor of 10!
The truly successful people in the world look at success as their duty, obligation, and responsibility. They are ALL IN on hitting their targets. 

10X is not about making money, although it could be if that is your goal. It’s about improving all aspects of your life:
• Your attitude
• Your fitness
• Your relationships
• Your grades in school or your career

Someone who is committed to 10X’ing their life never assumes the goal is too big or unattainable. They know if they are not hitting the target, they simply need to take more action. Here is the key:

MASSIVE ACTION = MASSIVE RESULTS

How can you 10X your life? Here are some suggestions.

10X Your Attitude: Read a positive book every day for 20 minutes, listen to an inspiring podcast every day, surround yourself with encouraging, “can do” people.
Zig Ziglar says, “Motivation is like bathing, it’s best that you do it every day!” 10X means do the above 7 days per week. You do shower on the weekends, don’t you???

10X Your Fitness: Drink a gallon of water every day, exercise 6 days per week, eliminate processed foods.
Jillian Michaels says, “If it doesn’t come from the ground or have a mother, you shouldn’t eat it.”

10X Your Relationships: Schedule family time more frequently, have a date night with your significant other once per week, send 5 gratitude messages per week to people you are grateful for. 
I once read that gratitude is the antidote to worry, so if something is bothering you or keeping you up at night, express more gratitude and watch what happens to those annoying, worrisome thoughts. 

10X Your Grades (Kids) and/or Career: Schedule time to study and do your homework, schedule your most important tasks first thing in the morning to make sure they get done, set “50-minute power blocks” to work on your most important projects and eliminate all distractions and interruptions (Yes, that means turning off your phone!) 😊 

Still not sold on the 10X idea?

Think of it this way. Say your goal is to make $100,000 per year and you hit it. Great job! You hit your goal. 

Now say you set a 10X income goal of $1,000,000, and you take massive action, bust your butt, and give it everything you got. You burn the midnight oil, burn the boats so there is no turning back, and you come up short. Say you “only” earned $300,000 that year. 

Which person still made out better?

Best selling author, Grant Cardone says, “When you get committed, you get creative.” When you get creative on how to hit your 10X goals, you make major shifts in everything you do.

10X it baby!!! 

Overcoming Bullying: The Day That I Changed the Way I saw Myself
I remember like it was yesterday. I was in middle school, and I was getting bullied. To this day, I don’t know why this kid targeted me or what I did to upset him. All I know was that he was making my life hell. 

He was bigger than me, appeared to be stronger, had been in a lot of fights, and I was scared of him. I had been doing martial arts for a couple years by this point. I believe I was a green belt or so.

Sure, I had been learning lots of self-defense techniques, and I was doing a lot of sparring. Nonetheless, I was intimidated by this kid.
So, I tried ignoring him. That didn’t work. I tried to always be with a group of other kids. I figured he wouldn’t single me out if I was in a big group. That didn’t work either.

I spoke to one of my martial arts instructors about the situation, and he told me that I was going to have to stand up to this kid, otherwise he would never stop. He reminded me that most bullies don’t want to fight. They just want to make you feel intimidated so they feel good about themselves.
After a month or so of misery dealing with this, I knew I had to stand up to this kid. Honestly, I didn’t want to. I was hoping (and praying) that he would stop, but of course, he didn’t.

I was dreading it, yet something deep down told me that I would have much bigger regrets by not standing up to him. I somehow knew that I wouldn’t be able to live with myself if I continued to let it happen.

The next time I saw him and he said something, I committed to myself that I was going to stand up to him.

The next day I walked out of Social Studies, and he was there waiting to enter the classroom. I remember he called me a name, but I don’t remember what the name was that he called me.

I immediately responded with, “Shut up!” He got in my face and asked me, “What did you say?” in a pretty angry and surprised voice. Up until now, I hadn’t really responded to any of his bullying comments.

I responded with, “What? Did I stutter?”

Then he reared his right hand back and swung a haymaker punch to my face. A haymaker is a wide, circular punch that generates a lot of power. The downside to the punch is that it’s wide so you can see it coming. You have a half a second to react.

I was scared. I don’t know if I was visibly shaking, but inside I can tell you I was shaking for sure!

Then it happened. I instinctively slipped his punch, just like we had practiced hundreds of times in the dojo and fired a right hand back that cracked him in the face.

Then a bunch of people jumped in to break up the fight and nothing else happened. The fact that the fight got broken up didn’t matter. I fought back...without even thinking about it. I successfully responded to his attack even though I was scared and intimidated.

The muscle memory from all the self-defense and sparring drills we did took over, and it worked! I was elated. I had this new found confidence in myself and my abilities. I knew from that day on that my martial arts training was really working, and more importantly I started to view myself differently. I saw myself as a confident person. Someone that would never start a fight, but I certainly would stand up for myself and finish one if I was ever attacked or bullied.

Why do I share this story? Because 160,000 kids miss school everyday because of getting bullied. Bullying is the second cause of teen suicide right now.
If fighting can be avoided, it should be. However, I know what will help kids is building their self-confidence.

UFC Hall of Famer, Ken Shamrock, says, “There is no confidence like self-defense confidence.” I wholeheartedly agree with that quote.

This story is one of the main reasons I love the martial arts. It transforms people. It transformed me and the way I saw myself, and I see it changing both kids and adults in our dojo everyday.

Thank you for being a part of the Elite Force family!

Do What You Say - Congruency
We all know people whose word is their bond. When they say they are going to do something or be somewhere, they make it happen. They exemplify congruency.

We all know others that talk a good game and that’s about it. They never show up, never get the job done, etc. I’m sure they have good intentions; however, they more often that not, fall short.

Why is that? Why do some people follow through and others say they will but fall short?

I think there are two main reasons. First is Clarity. High performers know exactly what they want and what they are willing to do to make it happen. They are crystal clear about the goal. They are dedicated and driven.

I have a good friend like this, Bill Storm. Bill is consistent as the day is long. He shows up for Jiu-Jitsu class every day, he maintains a consistent work schedule, and always follows through on what he says he will do.

Bill is very clear about his goals. He has a clear vision of where he wants his life to be in one year, three years, and 5 years.

I think the second reason people are congruent with what they say and do is reasons. They know why they want their goals and are driven by that.
For many, they want a better future filled with better health, relationships, finances, and more. They know why they are working so hard and how they will benefit when they achieve the goal.

I once heard the story of a many who was 150 pounds overweight. He tried and tried but could never lose any weight.

Now we all know losing weight is a simple task, exercise more and eat less. Sure, it’s a simple task, but it’s not an easy one.

Later, his daughter got sick and needed a new kidney. He was tested and found out he was a match to donate one of his kidneys. The challenge was the Doctor said he could not do the surgery on the man because he was too heavy. The guy said he would do anything.

The Doctor said you have 9 months to lose 125 pounds. Guess what? Nine months later, the man successfully lost the 125 pounds. Why? He knew what he wanted, and he had a strong reason why he had to make it happen.

I want you to think about you. What are your goals, and more importantly, your compelling reasons to reach the next level? When you identify those, watch out! The magic will happen. You will be driven into action and compelled to do whatever it takes to achieve the goal!


The Right Way to Praise Kids
If you are a parent, you know how important it is to help your child develop confidence. It’s everything! For your child to reach their potential, they have to believe in themselves and feel good about who they are.

Here is what most parents do. They say things like, “You are so beautiful. You are so talented. You are so skilled.” If you are a parent, I’m sure you have said things like this to your child. I know I have.

Giving your child compliments is not a bad thing, however it is not the best way to praise kids, so they develop real confidence.

There was an 18-year study done at Stanford University, and the study found that complimenting your child feels good to them in the moment, but when they deal with the inevitable obstacles or challenges in life, they will panic because they will start to think it’s not true.

In fact, when kids that were praised like that were given a difficult test, 40% of them lied about their score because it was incongruent with who they thought they were. That’s right - 40%!

The study found that the best way to praise kids was based upon their efforts. In other words, when parents praise a child’s creativity, follow through, disciplined habits, and non-quitting spirit, the child develops real confidence.

The reason this works is because their efforts are what will stick with them as they get older and deal with the next set of challenges. They can always rely on their creativity, their disciplined habits, their follow through to help them overcome the current problem.

I have seen this happen many times at our martial arts schools. For example, we have a student, Nicholas Melo, that was born with low muscle tone. In other words, he was born with less muscle than a normal kid.

He came to the dojo and fell in love with it. When it came time to do the necessary fitness testing, he had a hard time initially. His parents, Marcelo and Simone, were smart though. They reminded him that he doesn’t give up on things. That he is incredibly disciplined and focused.

They encouraged him and told him if he was disciplined at practicing every day, he would be able to make the fitness standard. And guess what? He sure did, and he did it with flying colors!

Fast forward to now, and Nicholas is a confident 15-year-old 2nd Degree Black Belt with greatness in his future!

I’m reading a book right now called “Outwitting the Devil” by Napoleon Hill. In the book, he talks about how drifters (people who just go through life with no real passion or aim) come into a failure or setback and they think it is final. In other words, they think there is nothing they can do about it.
However, there is a big difference between a temporary setback and a permanent failure. If a child knows that he or she is resilient and creative, they will rely on their ability to figure things out.

New York Times best-selling author, Brendon Burchard says that high performers in life are not necessarily the smartest people or have all the answers. They are the people that believe strongly in their ability to figure things out. In other words, they are tenacious, persistent, and driven to find a way to achieve their goal.

They will ask questions, work hard, study, and try repeatedly to figure it out until they are successful.

In summary, giving anyone a compliment is always a nice gesture, and I’m sure it will be appreciated. But when praising your child, focus on their efforts, and overtime they will develop the true, unshakeable confidence that will last for many years to come!

As always, thank you for being a part of the Elite Force family!

Are You Living Your Dreams or Is FEAR Holding You Back?
As I write this, we are preparing for the April 2019 Black Belt Spectacular, which is our Black Belt graduation ceremony/demonstration. We hold it at the Township Center of the Performing Arts in Coconut Creek, and we almost always sell it out.

Black Belt Spectaculars are like the holidays for me because we get to celebrate our student’s accomplishments and their many years of dedication towards their martial arts training.

I can’t help but feel grateful that I took a risk back when I was 26 years old. Back then I had a pretty good life. I had bought a house at 25, had a nice car, a motorcycle, a good job making good money, and I lived very close to many good friends and my family.

Everything was great on the surface, but there was something going on inside of me. Every day I sprinted home from work to get ready to teach at the dojo. I still taught part-time just for fun, and I was still training 4-5 days per week.

One day I remember leaving work at 5:00 and got home as fast as I could. I went in the bathroom and looked in the mirror and thought, “Is this all there is to life? There has to be more.”

That’s when I made the decision to pursue the martial arts as a career. It’s what I loved and what I felt I was meant to do. On top of all that, I wanted to do it in South Florida, not Syracuse, NY. 
Then the doubts settled in. I would have to quit my job, sell my house, find a spot in Florida, etc. Was I crazy to give up a good job like that? My parents certainly thought so, and they preceded to tell me!

None the less, I had to try. If it didn’t work out, I could always move back to Syracuse and figure something out.

Scared and unsure, I made the move, and through a lot of hard work, determination, and luck, everything worked out. Here we are almost 16 years later, and I am living the life of my dreams. I get to do martial arts for a living!

My question for you is are you living your dreams? Is there a goal you still want to achieve? Is there a business you want to start?

I am a BIG believer in personal development. I read 2-4 books per month. I once heard the story of how Jeff Bezos started Amazon.

Jeff already had a great job making great money. He told his boss about his idea to start this online book store. His boss thought it was a good idea, but he thought it was a good idea for someone that didn’t already have a good job.

Before turning in is resignation, his boss urged him to take the weekend to think it through. Jeff went home and thought. He had already had the support of is wife.

Jeff thought about himself at 90 years old sitting on his front porch looking back on his life. He realized right then that he was okay with trying the business and failing, but he could not live with the idea of never trying.

He knew his 90-year-old self would have major regrets not trying this idea. So, in the end, Jeff Bezos said the decision to start Amazon was a fairly easy one.

It was 7 years of hard work, dealing with failures, dedication, and drive. Yet he made it and changed all our lives in the process. Do you know anyone that does not have an Amazon Prime account?

Look at how he changed the world of shopping, and how he set a new standard of free shipping when ordering something online. He is a game changer!
Is there a goal or dream that you might regret not trying when you are older? The sad truth is we only get one chance on this game of life, and we all have to make it count.

I once heard that the acronym for FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real. I also heard that when God wants to give us a gift, he disguises it as hard work.

I hope this article gets you thinking a little, and it encourages you to do some soul searching, dreaming, and planning.

Thank you for taking the time to read this and thank you for being a part of the Elite Force family!



Focus on the Positive Point
I was reading a story about a group of kids going on a white-water rafting trip in Durango, Colorado. When the kids arrived, the guide informed the group that the rapids were higher and stronger than they had been in several years. 

Rapids range on a scale of 1 to 5 with 5 being the strongest and most aggressive. The kids were about to embark on a trip with mostly level 4 rapids. Of course, the guide had the kids do many drills and exercises to prepare them for the trip and to ensure their safety before they left.

The most important point the guide drilled into them was the idea of the “positive point”.

He explained to the boys that he would always point to where he wanted them to go, and he would never point to where he didn’t want them to go. He said he would never point at the downed tree or the jagged rock that could puncture the raft.

He reminded the kids that the most important thing was to focus on where they wanted to go and not where they didn’t want to go. He also explained that if he warned them about the jagged rocks or the downed trees, they would surely look at them in fear and move right toward them.

Focusing on the “positive point” got the kids to focus on the solution (steering to a clearing) and not the problem (crashing into the rocks).

This exact strategy is what holds a lot of people back from achieving their big goals and dreams. They put their focus on what they don’t want or what they are afraid of.

You may have a dream of starting your own business, but your focus is on how hard it will be and how you could lose money. You may have a goal to run a marathon, but you tell yourself all the reasons why you can’t do it. You might be thinking, “I don’t have enough time to train. I have a bad knee. I’m not built for running.”

This is putting your focus on the jagged rocks versus the positive point.

Now surely, this strategy is a lot easier said than done, as is most things in life. But none the less, it does work. You may initially start focusing on the challenges and obstacles, but over time you start to look for the solution and that becomes your dominant focus.

Author Dean Graziosi says, “When you focus on the outcome rather than the obstacle, your life will never be the same.”

I’m going to challenge you to start thinking about your goals and dreams. Where do you want to go? What would you like to achieve? Of course, there will be challenges along the way, but don’t focus on them. Focus on where you want to go and what you need to do to make that goal a reality.

Tony Robbins told the story of when he was learning to drive professional race cars. He was in a simulator and the instructor told him if you start to slide or lose control, immediately focus on where you want to go. He also said to never look at the wall!

Sure enough, Tony started sliding and he saw the wall and fixated on it in fear. Sure enough, he crashed!

As he got more and more experienced, he conditioned himself to focus on where he wanted to go and became a very skilled driver.

There are many successful people in the world, and many of them are no smarter than you and I. The difference is they conditioned themselves to focus on the positive point despite temporary disappointments and setbacks.

2019 could be your best year ever. Where is your positive point? What do you need to do to move in that direction, and make your dreams come true?

Thank you for being a part of the Elite Force family!



Life is a Fight! Do You Believe You Can Win?
We are in a brand-new year, and everyone is busy setting their New Year’s resolutions. I love New Year’s because it’s a chance to start fresh and make some big momentum towards your goals and dreams. 

The sad part is that only 4% of people follow through on their resolutions…that’s it! I know I have set some lofty resolutions in the past only to fall of track a couple weeks after January 1st.

So why do most people fall off track? There are many reasons, but one stands out to me right away.

If you are going to achieve some big goals and make this year your best year so far, you have to start in an empowered state. Meaning, deep down, many people don’t feel they can achieve what they want to achieve. It seems to far out of reach.

Some people make excuses, some people don’t believe they are worthy, smart enough, disciplined enough, or capable of greatness. These people set these goals and once the excitement of New Year’s wears off, they fall back into old habits and patterns that don’t lead to where they want to go. 

So, what should we do? I think the key is to start by reminding yourself of your greatness. That’s right! Spend some time focusing on your strengths, what you are good at, and what you have achieved in the past.

When you start thinking about your best qualities and past victories, your self-esteem goes up, you feel encouraged, motivated and capable of great results.

Here are a few questions to think about:
1. What are your Awesome Accomplishments?
Focus on all the incredible things you have achieved so far. This could be awards in school or awesome grades if you are a kid. It could be a promotion at work or a project you pushed through to completion.
What fitness achievements have you had? What progress have you made that you are possibly taking for granted?
When you remind yourself of your past greatness, your confidence will go up!

2. What’s cool about you?
Your biggest asset is your personality. Everyone has positive traits and skills that make them unique and different. What are some of yours? Are you a neat person? Do you like to read? Are you a good friend? A good listener?
Are you patient and kind with everyone?
Take a moment and think about all your cool qualities. I’ll bet there is a lot!

3. What are your strengths?
There is a myth that to be your best and move to the next level, you have to work on your weaknesses. That is totally untrue! We aren’t good at our weaknesses, and they are no fun to work on.
Instead, identify your strengths and unique abilities. Everyone has things they are good at!
Are you disciplined and punctual? Are you a good planner? Are you good at managing money? Sales and marketing? Are you encouraging with other people? Kids: Are you a good test taker? Is your homework neat and organized? Are you good at sports?  
Focusing on your strengths will make the journey to achievement more fun, faster, and you will go much further!
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These exercises are designed to get you to realize you have GREATNESS in you already! Most of the time, people focus on what they aren’t good at and their shortcomings. Instead, focus on the awesomeness in you – it’s there! Go out and celebrate it!


What is Influencing You?
As I look back at what a great year 2018 was, and I start setting my goals and making my plans for 2019, I am reminded of a quote by the legendary late author, Charlie “Tremendous” Jones. The quote is… 

“You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read.”

When you truly think about that statement, you have to agree with it 100%. The people you surround yourself with has a huge impact on the person you will become. When you hang around whiners, complainers, and overall pessimistic people, you can’t help but feel less motivated to make great things happen.

There is story of the crabs in the bucket. The crabs should be able to escape but they can’t because they keep pulling each other down. That’s what happens when you hang around the wrong people.

As I take inventory of the people I am surrounded by, I have to count my blessings because they are incredible people. They motivate me, inspire me, and help me grow to the next level.

I have a friend that I train with nearly every day who is this type of person. We got our Black Belts in Karate together back in 1990 in Syracuse, NY. I moved to South Florida in 2003 to open Elite Force Martial Arts. He moved to Florida around 2010. We re-connected and started training in Jiu-Jitsu together. His name is Bill Storm.

Bill is one of those extremely optimistic, positive people who takes a lot of action towards his goals. He lives by the philosophy of, “Don’t wait. Create!” He’s the type of guy that doesn’t wait to see what happens. He goes out and creates what he wants. When things get tough, he honors the struggle, brings the joy, and keeps moving forward.

Because of his mindset, he has built a very successful digital marketing business with Click Funnels, he is in great shape, and has a wonderful family.
Who are you hanging around? Who is influencing you?

Next, let’s focus on the books you read. I saw a statistic by Jim Kwik, renowned brain coach, that the average American reads only 2-3 books per year, yet the average CEO reads 4-5 books per month. WOW!

I was fortunate to have a mentor early in life influence me to start reading personal development books every morning to get my mindset right for the day. He said all leaders, are great readers!

I can’t even begin to explain the impact this has had on my positive attitude, daily habits, and actions I take.

Some of my favorite books are:
• The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
• Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
• High Performance Habits by Brendon Burchard
• Millionaire Success Habits by Dean Graziosi
• The Go-Giver series by Bob Burg and John David Mann
• The 10X Rule by Grant Cardone

I think of reading as doing mental push-ups. We need to strengthen our bodies with exercise, and we need to strengthen our mind with reading. I am doing my best to instill the reading habit in my daughter at an early age, so she falls in love with reading the way I have.

Want to be a better reader? Here are a couple strategies to consider:
1. Schedule time everyday to read. I schedule 20-30 minutes every morning to read. When it’s in the calendar, it gets done. Make an appointment with yourself. You wouldn’t blow off a doctor’s appointment or an appointment with your child’s teacher, would you?
2. Eliminate distractions. Go to a quiet room, go to the beach, or some where you can focus.
3. Treat your book like a workbook. Take notes, highlight in it, dog ear pages, etc. Don’t think about getting through the book, instead think, what can I get from this book? Big difference!
4. Be patient. It will take time to build your reading muscles if you are not in the habit. Start slow and you will improve over time.
5. Use NET time, meaning NO EXTRA TIME. Listen to an audiobook while you drive, exercise, walk the dog, etc. You can kill two birds with one stone!

I wish you success, happiness, and abundance in 2019. Let’s go out there and crush it! The best is yet to come!

Starting Over
Over the years, I have spoken to many people who have talked about trying new things or changing their careers, but something seems to hold them back.  

One of the things we know for sure is we don’t like what we are not good at. The idea of starting a new workout routine or activity can be frightening because we don’t want to look stupid, and of course, we don’t want to get hurt.

A little over 8 years ago, I did just that. I started a new style of martial arts for me called Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. I have been doing Kempo Karate since I was 10 years old (I’m 41 right now), and I have been doing Muay Thai Kickboxing for the past 23 years.

Jiu-Jitsu is referred to as the “gentle art”. It was designed to teach smaller, less athletic people how to defend themselves against larger, stronger attackers using leverage and technique, not strength.

Jiu-Jitsu is mostly on the ground, not standing. Now, I never wrestled as a kid, so this was unchartered waters for me to say the least!
I wasn’t that good when I started Kempo back in 1987, and I can tell you I was not God’s gift to Jiu-Jitsu. Far from it!

I wasn’t very good at all. I had a hard time learning the techniques and positions in the beginning, and I made mistake after mistake. Thankfully my instructors were patient with me!

Currently I am a Brown Belt, and hopefully in the next few years, I will earn my Black Belt. Fingers crossed!

The cool thing about this process was that I learned (and was reminded) of a lot of valuable life lessons that have made me a better teacher, business person, spouse, and parent.

1. Every Master Was Once a Disaster
Everyone that starts something new isn’t that good in the beginning. We all learn through making mistakes, trial and error, and through feedback. I had to learn to let my ego fly out the door and just focus on enjoying the learning process.
I had to learn to give myself a break and take the pressure off. When I did that, I relaxed and had a lot of fun!

2. Patience Grasshopper
This process reminded me what it was like to be a beginner again. I was making silly mistakes just like the ones I see beginners make in our regular Karate/Kickboxing program. I became WAY MORE patient and understanding. And because of that, I was able to relate to them deeper and help them accelerate their progress along the way.

I also became a far more patient father to my awesome little girl, Alexa Rae. I would just get out of class making some unintentional errors and goof ball mistakes, so when my daughter did stuff like that at home or playing a sport, I was a much more supportive, loving dad.

3. Progress, not Perfection
Starting a new style of martial arts at 34 years old reminded me that life is all about progress, not being perfect. Everyone runs their own race. Everyone is on their own path. Everyone starts at a different age, stage, and background.
I learned to “keep my eyes on my own paper” and not compare myself to others. Instead, I learned to get inspired by others, but not compare myself to others.

4. Failure is an Event, not a Person
We all fail, mess up, and don’t meet our own expectations of ourselves. That is life! It happens in sports, business, fun activities, and more. Allow yourself the gift of giving yourself a break!

Think of it this way. It’s never a loss, always a lesson! When you look at every mistake and time you screwed up as a learning opportunity, you put a positive spin on it, and you enjoy the process more.

I heard a story about Thomas Edison when he was in the process of making the light bulb work. Legend has it that he failed about a thousand times before it finally worked. He said, “I didn’t fail all those times. I successfully found out a lot of ways that did not work!” Great mindset! I need to drink what he is drinking! 😊

I think that is one of the big secrets to goal achievement…fall in love with the process. When you do that, you experience more joy, happiness, and camaraderie with others.

In the end, this process of starting over motivated me to open Elite Force BJJ in addition to our existing Karate/Muay Thai program.

Never stop learning, trying, and growing. The best is yet to come!

10X Your Life
There has been a lot written about setting goals, working hard, and never giving up. Just about everything you read has some validity and makes sense. I think we have all heard the acronym for SMART Goals: 
• Specific
• Measurable
• Attainable
• Realistic
• Time dated

That is all well and good, however most people will look at the attainable and realistic piece of that and limit themselves. They will start thinking, “Well, this goal isn’t realistic for me. Sure, Jeff Bezos or Richard Branson can hit much higher levels, but they are Jeff Bezos and Richard Branson.”

I’m going to encourage you to 10X your goals and your life! What is 10X you ask? It is enhancing your life, your goals, your lifestyle by a factor of 10!
The truly successful people in the world look at success as their duty, obligation, and responsibility. They are ALL IN on hitting their targets. 

10X is not about making money, although it could be if that is your goal. It’s about improving all aspects of your life:
• Your attitude
• Your fitness
• Your relationships
• Your grades in school or your career

Someone who is committed to 10X’ing their life never assumes the goal is too big or unattainable. They know if they are not hitting the target, they simply need to take more action. Here is the key:

MASSIVE ACTION = MASSIVE RESULTS

How can you 10X your life? Here are some suggestions.

10X Your Attitude: Read a positive book every day for 20 minutes, listen to an inspiring podcast every day, surround yourself with encouraging, “can do” people.
Zig Ziglar says, “Motivation is like bathing, it’s best that you do it every day!” 10X means do the above 7 days per week. You do shower on the weekends, don’t you???

10X Your Fitness: Drink a gallon of water every day, exercise 6 days per week, eliminate processed foods.
Jillian Michaels says, “If it doesn’t come from the ground or have a mother, you shouldn’t eat it.”

10X Your Relationships: Schedule family time more frequently, have a date night with your significant other once per week, send 5 gratitude messages per week to people you are grateful for. 
I once read that gratitude is the antidote to worry, so if something is bothering you or keeping you up at night, express more gratitude and watch what happens to those annoying, worrisome thoughts. 

10X Your Grades (Kids) and/or Career: Schedule time to study and do your homework, schedule your most important tasks first thing in the morning to make sure they get done, set “50-minute power blocks” to work on your most important projects and eliminate all distractions and interruptions (Yes, that means turning off your phone!) 😊 

Still not sold on the 10X idea?

Think of it this way. Say your goal is to make $100,000 per year and you hit it. Great job! You hit your goal. 

Now say you set a 10X income goal of $1,000,000, and you take massive action, bust your butt, and give it everything you got. You burn the midnight oil, burn the boats so there is no turning back, and you come up short. Say you “only” earned $300,000 that year. 

Which person still made out better?

Best selling author, Grant Cardone says, “When you get committed, you get creative.” When you get creative on how to hit your 10X goals, you make major shifts in everything you do.

10X it baby!!! 

Be a Dealer of Praise, Encouragement, and Positivity
I was recently going through some folders in my email account to see if I still needed the messages that were in there. Truth be told I am an “anti-clutter” person to begin with and got fired up about “killing the clutter” in my life because I had just listened to a podcast on strategies to de-clutter your life.

If you are interested in that, checkout the HPX Podcast and listen to the “De-clutter Your Life with Chalene Johnson”. Good stuff!

I came across a voicemail message I received from one of my mentor’s, Jeffrey Gitomer. Jeffrey teaches sales, leadership, and business strategies to sales professionals and entrepreneurs.

I remember a seminar I went to of his in Orlando, Florida where he talked about making your business standout. He said most businesses give potential customers a brochure with a bunch of pointless information about the company. What do most people do with that brochure? They throw it in the garbage! His recommendation was to give them a trash can with your company’s logo on it, so they have a place to put the brochure! Plus, you will make them laugh! 😊

What he recommended was to write a book and use that as the brochure. At first, I thought there was no way I could write a book. It seemed like a lot of work, and a book was one of those things that really smart authors did.

After a lot of thinking, I thought if Jeffrey said to do it, I’m going to do it. I blocked off 60 minutes first thing every morning and for 2 weeks I wrote, and wrote, and wrote.

After, the writing was done, I found an editor online, and had him go through the book and critique it and correct the grammar. From there, I contacted my graphic arts person and had them design a cover.

After all that, I had a small 42-page book to give to my students and potential students. Hopefully, it would do what Jeffrey said. It would make me look like the local expert in my field and make the dojo stand out amongst other businesses.

I was excited and decided to mail him a copy along with a notecard saying thank you for the advice he had given us all at the seminar.
I wasn’t expecting to hear back from him. After all, he is a multiple time New York Times best-selling author, and his book, “The Sales Bible” is the top selling sales book of all time! He’s busy with his podcast, writing, seminars, and consulting.

Then about a week later, he called me! I had forgotten to forward the phones to my cell phone this Friday afternoon, so the voicemail was sent to my email. I listened to it, and sure enough Jeffrey had called me to congratulate me. Plus, he wanted to give me some advice on how to use my book!

I eagerly called back and had an incredible conversation with this guy I looked up to. I listened to his praise and took notes…lots of notes!

When I was clearing out my old email messages, that voicemail from June 3, 2016 made me smile, and I felt pretty good about myself.

This article is not about me. It’s about the power of praise, the power of a compliment, and the power of encouragement.

We all thrive on praise and recognition. Of course, we don’t walk around and say that, but it’s true. One of the most effective teaching strategies we use at Elite Force Martial Arts is called “Praise Your Champions”. It’s when we praise and recognize the sharpest, most enthusiastic kids in class.

By praising them, the less motivated kids, pick up the pace because they want to be praised in front of the class over the mic.

I’m 42 years old and when my Jiu-Jitsu instructor praises me publicly or privately, it feels good. I walk out of class with an extra big smile on my face.
My encouragement for you is to be the dealer of praise, encouragement, and positivity in your circle of influence. Who could you praise that deserves it? Who could you encourage that needs it?

Think of yourself as a goldminer back in the gold rush. They weren’t looking for dirt, they were looking for gold. Look for untapped potential in people, search for talents that someone may not see in themselves.

In the book “The Go-Giver Leader, authors Bob Burg and John David Mann said, “Give people something good to live up to – something great – and they usually will.”

Truly effective leaders don’t push people, they pull them. They role model the way and pull them to the next level through seeing the best in them, encouraging them, praising achievements and effort, and repeating the process over and over and over again.

Don’t belittle people. Be-big them!

Thank you for being a part of the Elite Force family!


Do What You Say - Congruency
We all know people whose word is their bond. When they say they are going to do something or be somewhere, they make it happen. They exemplify congruency.

We all know others that talk a good game and that’s about it. They never show up, never get the job done, etc. I’m sure they have good intentions; however, they more often that not, fall short.

Why is that? Why do some people follow through and others say they will but fall short?

I think there are two main reasons. First is Clarity. High performers know exactly what they want and what they are willing to do to make it happen. They are crystal clear about the goal. They are dedicated and driven.

I have a good friend like this, Bill Storm. Bill is consistent as the day is long. He shows up for Jiu-Jitsu class every day, he maintains a consistent work schedule, and always follows through on what he says he will do.

Bill is very clear about his goals. He has a clear vision of where he wants his life to be in one year, three years, and 5 years.

I think the second reason people are congruent with what they say and do is reasons. They know why they want their goals and are driven by that.
For many, they want a better future filled with better health, relationships, finances, and more. They know why they are working so hard and how they will benefit when they achieve the goal.

I once heard the story of a many who was 150 pounds overweight. He tried and tried but could never lose any weight.

Now we all know losing weight is a simple task, exercise more and eat less. Sure, it’s a simple task, but it’s not an easy one.

Later, his daughter got sick and needed a new kidney. He was tested and found out he was a match to donate one of his kidneys. The challenge was the Doctor said he could not do the surgery on the man because he was too heavy. The guy said he would do anything.

The Doctor said you have 9 months to lose 125 pounds. Guess what? Nine months later, the man successfully lost the 125 pounds. Why? He knew what he wanted, and he had a strong reason why he had to make it happen.

I want you to think about you. What are your goals, and more importantly, your compelling reasons to reach the next level? When you identify those, watch out! The magic will happen. You will be driven into action and compelled to do whatever it takes to achieve the goal!


The Right Way to Praise Kids
If you are a parent, you know how important it is to help your child develop confidence. It’s everything! For your child to reach their potential, they have to believe in themselves and feel good about who they are.

Here is what most parents do. They say things like, “You are so beautiful. You are so talented. You are so skilled.” If you are a parent, I’m sure you have said things like this to your child. I know I have.

Giving your child compliments is not a bad thing, however it is not the best way to praise kids, so they develop real confidence.

There was an 18-year study done at Stanford University, and the study found that complimenting your child feels good to them in the moment, but when they deal with the inevitable obstacles or challenges in life, they will panic because they will start to think it’s not true.

In fact, when kids that were praised like that were given a difficult test, 40% of them lied about their score because it was incongruent with who they thought they were. That’s right - 40%!

The study found that the best way to praise kids was based upon their efforts. In other words, when parents praise a child’s creativity, follow through, disciplined habits, and non-quitting spirit, the child develops real confidence.

The reason this works is because their efforts are what will stick with them as they get older and deal with the next set of challenges. They can always rely on their creativity, their disciplined habits, their follow through to help them overcome the current problem.

I have seen this happen many times at our martial arts schools. For example, we have a student, Nicholas Melo, that was born with low muscle tone. In other words, he was born with less muscle than a normal kid.

He came to the dojo and fell in love with it. When it came time to do the necessary fitness testing, he had a hard time initially. His parents, Marcelo and Simone, were smart though. They reminded him that he doesn’t give up on things. That he is incredibly disciplined and focused.

They encouraged him and told him if he was disciplined at practicing every day, he would be able to make the fitness standard. And guess what? He sure did, and he did it with flying colors!

Fast forward to now, and Nicholas is a confident 15-year-old 2nd Degree Black Belt with greatness in his future!

I’m reading a book right now called “Outwitting the Devil” by Napoleon Hill. In the book, he talks about how drifters (people who just go through life with no real passion or aim) come into a failure or setback and they think it is final. In other words, they think there is nothing they can do about it.
However, there is a big difference between a temporary setback and a permanent failure. If a child knows that he or she is resilient and creative, they will rely on their ability to figure things out.

New York Times best-selling author, Brendon Burchard says that high performers in life are not necessarily the smartest people or have all the answers. They are the people that believe strongly in their ability to figure things out. In other words, they are tenacious, persistent, and driven to find a way to achieve their goal.

They will ask questions, work hard, study, and try repeatedly to figure it out until they are successful.

In summary, giving anyone a compliment is always a nice gesture, and I’m sure it will be appreciated. But when praising your child, focus on their efforts, and overtime they will develop the true, unshakeable confidence that will last for many years to come!

As always, thank you for being a part of the Elite Force family!

Are You Living Your Dreams or Is FEAR Holding You Back?
As I write this, we are preparing for the April 2019 Black Belt Spectacular, which is our Black Belt graduation ceremony/demonstration. We hold it at the Township Center of the Performing Arts in Coconut Creek, and we almost always sell it out.

Black Belt Spectaculars are like the holidays for me because we get to celebrate our student’s accomplishments and their many years of dedication towards their martial arts training.

I can’t help but feel grateful that I took a risk back when I was 26 years old. Back then I had a pretty good life. I had bought a house at 25, had a nice car, a motorcycle, a good job making good money, and I lived very close to many good friends and my family.

Everything was great on the surface, but there was something going on inside of me. Every day I sprinted home from work to get ready to teach at the dojo. I still taught part-time just for fun, and I was still training 4-5 days per week.

One day I remember leaving work at 5:00 and got home as fast as I could. I went in the bathroom and looked in the mirror and thought, “Is this all there is to life? There has to be more.”

That’s when I made the decision to pursue the martial arts as a career. It’s what I loved and what I felt I was meant to do. On top of all that, I wanted to do it in South Florida, not Syracuse, NY. 
Then the doubts settled in. I would have to quit my job, sell my house, find a spot in Florida, etc. Was I crazy to give up a good job like that? My parents certainly thought so, and they preceded to tell me!

None the less, I had to try. If it didn’t work out, I could always move back to Syracuse and figure something out.

Scared and unsure, I made the move, and through a lot of hard work, determination, and luck, everything worked out. Here we are almost 16 years later, and I am living the life of my dreams. I get to do martial arts for a living!

My question for you is are you living your dreams? Is there a goal you still want to achieve? Is there a business you want to start?

I am a BIG believer in personal development. I read 2-4 books per month. I once heard the story of how Jeff Bezos started Amazon.

Jeff already had a great job making great money. He told his boss about his idea to start this online book store. His boss thought it was a good idea, but he thought it was a good idea for someone that didn’t already have a good job.

Before turning in is resignation, his boss urged him to take the weekend to think it through. Jeff went home and thought. He had already had the support of is wife.

Jeff thought about himself at 90 years old sitting on his front porch looking back on his life. He realized right then that he was okay with trying the business and failing, but he could not live with the idea of never trying.

He knew his 90-year-old self would have major regrets not trying this idea. So, in the end, Jeff Bezos said the decision to start Amazon was a fairly easy one.

It was 7 years of hard work, dealing with failures, dedication, and drive. Yet he made it and changed all our lives in the process. Do you know anyone that does not have an Amazon Prime account?

Look at how he changed the world of shopping, and how he set a new standard of free shipping when ordering something online. He is a game changer!
Is there a goal or dream that you might regret not trying when you are older? The sad truth is we only get one chance on this game of life, and we all have to make it count.

I once heard that the acronym for FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real. I also heard that when God wants to give us a gift, he disguises it as hard work.

I hope this article gets you thinking a little, and it encourages you to do some soul searching, dreaming, and planning.

Thank you for taking the time to read this and thank you for being a part of the Elite Force family!



Focus on the Positive Point
I was reading a story about a group of kids going on a white-water rafting trip in Durango, Colorado. When the kids arrived, the guide informed the group that the rapids were higher and stronger than they had been in several years. 

Rapids range on a scale of 1 to 5 with 5 being the strongest and most aggressive. The kids were about to embark on a trip with mostly level 4 rapids. Of course, the guide had the kids do many drills and exercises to prepare them for the trip and to ensure their safety before they left.

The most important point the guide drilled into them was the idea of the “positive point”.

He explained to the boys that he would always point to where he wanted them to go, and he would never point to where he didn’t want them to go. He said he would never point at the downed tree or the jagged rock that could puncture the raft.

He reminded the kids that the most important thing was to focus on where they wanted to go and not where they didn’t want to go. He also explained that if he warned them about the jagged rocks or the downed trees, they would surely look at them in fear and move right toward them.

Focusing on the “positive point” got the kids to focus on the solution (steering to a clearing) and not the problem (crashing into the rocks).

This exact strategy is what holds a lot of people back from achieving their big goals and dreams. They put their focus on what they don’t want or what they are afraid of.

You may have a dream of starting your own business, but your focus is on how hard it will be and how you could lose money. You may have a goal to run a marathon, but you tell yourself all the reasons why you can’t do it. You might be thinking, “I don’t have enough time to train. I have a bad knee. I’m not built for running.”

This is putting your focus on the jagged rocks versus the positive point.

Now surely, this strategy is a lot easier said than done, as is most things in life. But none the less, it does work. You may initially start focusing on the challenges and obstacles, but over time you start to look for the solution and that becomes your dominant focus.

Author Dean Graziosi says, “When you focus on the outcome rather than the obstacle, your life will never be the same.”

I’m going to challenge you to start thinking about your goals and dreams. Where do you want to go? What would you like to achieve? Of course, there will be challenges along the way, but don’t focus on them. Focus on where you want to go and what you need to do to make that goal a reality.

Tony Robbins told the story of when he was learning to drive professional race cars. He was in a simulator and the instructor told him if you start to slide or lose control, immediately focus on where you want to go. He also said to never look at the wall!

Sure enough, Tony started sliding and he saw the wall and fixated on it in fear. Sure enough, he crashed!

As he got more and more experienced, he conditioned himself to focus on where he wanted to go and became a very skilled driver.

There are many successful people in the world, and many of them are no smarter than you and I. The difference is they conditioned themselves to focus on the positive point despite temporary disappointments and setbacks.

2019 could be your best year ever. Where is your positive point? What do you need to do to move in that direction, and make your dreams come true?

Thank you for being a part of the Elite Force family!



Life is a Fight! Do You Believe You Can Win?
We are in a brand-new year, and everyone is busy setting their New Year’s resolutions. I love New Year’s because it’s a chance to start fresh and make some big momentum towards your goals and dreams. 

The sad part is that only 4% of people follow through on their resolutions…that’s it! I know I have set some lofty resolutions in the past only to fall of track a couple weeks after January 1st.

So why do most people fall off track? There are many reasons, but one stands out to me right away.

If you are going to achieve some big goals and make this year your best year so far, you have to start in an empowered state. Meaning, deep down, many people don’t feel they can achieve what they want to achieve. It seems to far out of reach.

Some people make excuses, some people don’t believe they are worthy, smart enough, disciplined enough, or capable of greatness. These people set these goals and once the excitement of New Year’s wears off, they fall back into old habits and patterns that don’t lead to where they want to go. 

So, what should we do? I think the key is to start by reminding yourself of your greatness. That’s right! Spend some time focusing on your strengths, what you are good at, and what you have achieved in the past.

When you start thinking about your best qualities and past victories, your self-esteem goes up, you feel encouraged, motivated and capable of great results.

Here are a few questions to think about:
1. What are your Awesome Accomplishments?
Focus on all the incredible things you have achieved so far. This could be awards in school or awesome grades if you are a kid. It could be a promotion at work or a project you pushed through to completion.
What fitness achievements have you had? What progress have you made that you are possibly taking for granted?
When you remind yourself of your past greatness, your confidence will go up!

2. What’s cool about you?
Your biggest asset is your personality. Everyone has positive traits and skills that make them unique and different. What are some of yours? Are you a neat person? Do you like to read? Are you a good friend? A good listener?
Are you patient and kind with everyone?
Take a moment and think about all your cool qualities. I’ll bet there is a lot!

3. What are your strengths?
There is a myth that to be your best and move to the next level, you have to work on your weaknesses. That is totally untrue! We aren’t good at our weaknesses, and they are no fun to work on.
Instead, identify your strengths and unique abilities. Everyone has things they are good at!
Are you disciplined and punctual? Are you a good planner? Are you good at managing money? Sales and marketing? Are you encouraging with other people? Kids: Are you a good test taker? Is your homework neat and organized? Are you good at sports?  
Focusing on your strengths will make the journey to achievement more fun, faster, and you will go much further!
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These exercises are designed to get you to realize you have GREATNESS in you already! Most of the time, people focus on what they aren’t good at and their shortcomings. Instead, focus on the awesomeness in you – it’s there! Go out and celebrate it!


What is Influencing You?
As I look back at what a great year 2018 was, and I start setting my goals and making my plans for 2019, I am reminded of a quote by the legendary late author, Charlie “Tremendous” Jones. The quote is… 

“You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read.”

When you truly think about that statement, you have to agree with it 100%. The people you surround yourself with has a huge impact on the person you will become. When you hang around whiners, complainers, and overall pessimistic people, you can’t help but feel less motivated to make great things happen.

There is story of the crabs in the bucket. The crabs should be able to escape but they can’t because they keep pulling each other down. That’s what happens when you hang around the wrong people.

As I take inventory of the people I am surrounded by, I have to count my blessings because they are incredible people. They motivate me, inspire me, and help me grow to the next level.

I have a friend that I train with nearly every day who is this type of person. We got our Black Belts in Karate together back in 1990 in Syracuse, NY. I moved to South Florida in 2003 to open Elite Force Martial Arts. He moved to Florida around 2010. We re-connected and started training in Jiu-Jitsu together. His name is Bill Storm.

Bill is one of those extremely optimistic, positive people who takes a lot of action towards his goals. He lives by the philosophy of, “Don’t wait. Create!” He’s the type of guy that doesn’t wait to see what happens. He goes out and creates what he wants. When things get tough, he honors the struggle, brings the joy, and keeps moving forward.

Because of his mindset, he has built a very successful digital marketing business with Click Funnels, he is in great shape, and has a wonderful family.
Who are you hanging around? Who is influencing you?

Next, let’s focus on the books you read. I saw a statistic by Jim Kwik, renowned brain coach, that the average American reads only 2-3 books per year, yet the average CEO reads 4-5 books per month. WOW!

I was fortunate to have a mentor early in life influence me to start reading personal development books every morning to get my mindset right for the day. He said all leaders, are great readers!

I can’t even begin to explain the impact this has had on my positive attitude, daily habits, and actions I take.

Some of my favorite books are:
• The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
• Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
• High Performance Habits by Brendon Burchard
• Millionaire Success Habits by Dean Graziosi
• The Go-Giver series by Bob Burg and John David Mann
• The 10X Rule by Grant Cardone

I think of reading as doing mental push-ups. We need to strengthen our bodies with exercise, and we need to strengthen our mind with reading. I am doing my best to instill the reading habit in my daughter at an early age, so she falls in love with reading the way I have.

Want to be a better reader? Here are a couple strategies to consider:
1. Schedule time everyday to read. I schedule 20-30 minutes every morning to read. When it’s in the calendar, it gets done. Make an appointment with yourself. You wouldn’t blow off a doctor’s appointment or an appointment with your child’s teacher, would you?
2. Eliminate distractions. Go to a quiet room, go to the beach, or some where you can focus.
3. Treat your book like a workbook. Take notes, highlight in it, dog ear pages, etc. Don’t think about getting through the book, instead think, what can I get from this book? Big difference!
4. Be patient. It will take time to build your reading muscles if you are not in the habit. Start slow and you will improve over time.
5. Use NET time, meaning NO EXTRA TIME. Listen to an audiobook while you drive, exercise, walk the dog, etc. You can kill two birds with one stone!

I wish you success, happiness, and abundance in 2019. Let’s go out there and crush it! The best is yet to come!

Starting Over
Over the years, I have spoken to many people who have talked about trying new things or changing their careers, but something seems to hold them back.  

One of the things we know for sure is we don’t like what we are not good at. The idea of starting a new workout routine or activity can be frightening because we don’t want to look stupid, and of course, we don’t want to get hurt.

A little over 8 years ago, I did just that. I started a new style of martial arts for me called Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. I have been doing Kempo Karate since I was 10 years old (I’m 41 right now), and I have been doing Muay Thai Kickboxing for the past 23 years.

Jiu-Jitsu is referred to as the “gentle art”. It was designed to teach smaller, less athletic people how to defend themselves against larger, stronger attackers using leverage and technique, not strength.

Jiu-Jitsu is mostly on the ground, not standing. Now, I never wrestled as a kid, so this was unchartered waters for me to say the least!
I wasn’t that good when I started Kempo back in 1987, and I can tell you I was not God’s gift to Jiu-Jitsu. Far from it!

I wasn’t very good at all. I had a hard time learning the techniques and positions in the beginning, and I made mistake after mistake. Thankfully my instructors were patient with me!

Currently I am a Brown Belt, and hopefully in the next few years, I will earn my Black Belt. Fingers crossed!

The cool thing about this process was that I learned (and was reminded) of a lot of valuable life lessons that have made me a better teacher, business person, spouse, and parent.

1. Every Master Was Once a Disaster
Everyone that starts something new isn’t that good in the beginning. We all learn through making mistakes, trial and error, and through feedback. I had to learn to let my ego fly out the door and just focus on enjoying the learning process.
I had to learn to give myself a break and take the pressure off. When I did that, I relaxed and had a lot of fun!

2. Patience Grasshopper
This process reminded me what it was like to be a beginner again. I was making silly mistakes just like the ones I see beginners make in our regular Karate/Kickboxing program. I became WAY MORE patient and understanding. And because of that, I was able to relate to them deeper and help them accelerate their progress along the way.

I also became a far more patient father to my awesome little girl, Alexa Rae. I would just get out of class making some unintentional errors and goof ball mistakes, so when my daughter did stuff like that at home or playing a sport, I was a much more supportive, loving dad.

3. Progress, not Perfection
Starting a new style of martial arts at 34 years old reminded me that life is all about progress, not being perfect. Everyone runs their own race. Everyone is on their own path. Everyone starts at a different age, stage, and background.
I learned to “keep my eyes on my own paper” and not compare myself to others. Instead, I learned to get inspired by others, but not compare myself to others.

4. Failure is an Event, not a Person
We all fail, mess up, and don’t meet our own expectations of ourselves. That is life! It happens in sports, business, fun activities, and more. Allow yourself the gift of giving yourself a break!

Think of it this way. It’s never a loss, always a lesson! When you look at every mistake and time you screwed up as a learning opportunity, you put a positive spin on it, and you enjoy the process more.

I heard a story about Thomas Edison when he was in the process of making the light bulb work. Legend has it that he failed about a thousand times before it finally worked. He said, “I didn’t fail all those times. I successfully found out a lot of ways that did not work!” Great mindset! I need to drink what he is drinking! 😊

I think that is one of the big secrets to goal achievement…fall in love with the process. When you do that, you experience more joy, happiness, and camaraderie with others.

In the end, this process of starting over motivated me to open Elite Force BJJ in addition to our existing Karate/Muay Thai program.

Never stop learning, trying, and growing. The best is yet to come!

10X Your Life
There has been a lot written about setting goals, working hard, and never giving up. Just about everything you read has some validity and makes sense. I think we have all heard the acronym for SMART Goals: 
• Specific
• Measurable
• Attainable
• Realistic
• Time dated

That is all well and good, however most people will look at the attainable and realistic piece of that and limit themselves. They will start thinking, “Well, this goal isn’t realistic for me. Sure, Jeff Bezos or Richard Branson can hit much higher levels, but they are Jeff Bezos and Richard Branson.”

I’m going to encourage you to 10X your goals and your life! What is 10X you ask? It is enhancing your life, your goals, your lifestyle by a factor of 10!
The truly successful people in the world look at success as their duty, obligation, and responsibility. They are ALL IN on hitting their targets. 

10X is not about making money, although it could be if that is your goal. It’s about improving all aspects of your life:
• Your attitude
• Your fitness
• Your relationships
• Your grades in school or your career

Someone who is committed to 10X’ing their life never assumes the goal is too big or unattainable. They know if they are not hitting the target, they simply need to take more action. Here is the key:

MASSIVE ACTION = MASSIVE RESULTS

How can you 10X your life? Here are some suggestions.

10X Your Attitude: Read a positive book every day for 20 minutes, listen to an inspiring podcast every day, surround yourself with encouraging, “can do” people.
Zig Ziglar says, “Motivation is like bathing, it’s best that you do it every day!” 10X means do the above 7 days per week. You do shower on the weekends, don’t you???

10X Your Fitness: Drink a gallon of water every day, exercise 6 days per week, eliminate processed foods.
Jillian Michaels says, “If it doesn’t come from the ground or have a mother, you shouldn’t eat it.”

10X Your Relationships: Schedule family time more frequently, have a date night with your significant other once per week, send 5 gratitude messages per week to people you are grateful for. 
I once read that gratitude is the antidote to worry, so if something is bothering you or keeping you up at night, express more gratitude and watch what happens to those annoying, worrisome thoughts. 

10X Your Grades (Kids) and/or Career: Schedule time to study and do your homework, schedule your most important tasks first thing in the morning to make sure they get done, set “50-minute power blocks” to work on your most important projects and eliminate all distractions and interruptions (Yes, that means turning off your phone!) 😊 

Still not sold on the 10X idea?

Think of it this way. Say your goal is to make $100,000 per year and you hit it. Great job! You hit your goal. 

Now say you set a 10X income goal of $1,000,000, and you take massive action, bust your butt, and give it everything you got. You burn the midnight oil, burn the boats so there is no turning back, and you come up short. Say you “only” earned $300,000 that year. 

Which person still made out better?

Best selling author, Grant Cardone says, “When you get committed, you get creative.” When you get creative on how to hit your 10X goals, you make major shifts in everything you do.

10X it baby!!! 

Going to Montana! What we can learn from a small fish market in Seattle.
There is a legendary fish market in Seattle, Washington, called the Pike Place Fish Market. Yes, the fish is world class, however the service, positive culture, and playfulness of the staff has made this fish market the ultimate example of how to improve the environment in your business, classroom, and home. 

The staff realized that they are not in the fish business – they are in the people business serving fish. Big difference!
It’s not uncommon to see employees throwing fish across the shop yelling, “Going to Montana!” You will even see customers throwing the fish, taking pictures holding large fish, and everyone having a great time. 

I understand that not everyone here is a business owner, manager, or a CEO. This philosophy applies to parents, teachers, siblings, and more!

There are 4 elements to the FISH philosophy:
1- Play
2- Make their day
3- Be there
4- Choose your attitude 

Play

The employees at the Pike Place Fish Company make it a point to have fun at work. Yes, they do their job. They serve customers, ring up sales, and collect money. But they also do far more than that. They make people smile, crack jokes, and have fun! 
What can you do at work or home to be more playful and have fun? 

Make their day

The make their day philosophy is all about bringing a little more joy to others and trying to be the highlight of their day. It can be as simple as a sincere compliment, giving them an unexpected surprise, or helping someone out in a time of need.
It could also be giving someone a shout out on Facebook, sending them a card or positive text message. It could be anything that will make them smile. 
What can you do to make someone’s day today?

Be there

Today, everyone is distracted with their phones, the internet, social media, and more. The “be there” philosophy is hitting pause and engaging with a live person and giving them your full attention. Be there means to really listen to them, understand what they are saying, and doing something with it.
Mary Kay Ask has a famous quote that says, “Everyone wears a sign on their head that says MAKE ME FEEL IMPORTANT.” When you are “in the moment” with another person, you are making that person feel great.

Choose your attitude

Attitude is a choice. You can choose to be happy and positive or you can choose to be a miserable, negative nelly. Yes, I know bad things happen sometimes, but it’s not what happens…it’s what you do with what happens that makes the difference.

I love this quote: “Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass. It’s about learning to dance in the rain.”
- Vivian Greene

You can choose to focus on what’s wrong in your life or you can choose to HONOR THE STRUGGLE and BRING THE JOY to every person, every interaction, and every situation you can. 

This is not an article about business. It’s an article about engagement, building relationships, and strengthening the bonds you have with the people in your life. 

So go out there and bring the joy!!! 




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