Want to feel differently? Act Differently!
I have spent 15 years studying successful people, trying to figure out what makes them rise to the top in their fields. What drives them? How do some people rise to the top while others, who seem talented and hardworking, never reach their true potential?
Do some people just have the “Midas touch”? You know, everything they touch turns to gold. I don’t believe in luck alone. I believe the harder a person works, the luckier they get.
I think the key is in those two magic words – HARD WORK!
Most people allow their feelings to determine what they do. They feel tired so they hit the snooze button. They feel sluggish so they skip their workout. They are hungry and in a hurry so they swing by McDonald’s.
They allow their feelings to determine what they do, and over time, this becomes their identity. Sooner or later that person says think like…
“I can’t lose weight. I’ve tried everything.”
“I don’t have time to work out. I’m too busy.”
“I just can’t get motivated.”
The formula they follow is: FEELINGS => ACTIONS => IDENTITY
What if you flipped a couple words around? What if you made the formula go like this: IDENTITY => ACTIONS => FEELINGS?
Instead of doing something (or not doing something) based on how you feel in the moment, ask yourself what would the person I want to be do right now?
If you acted based on the person you want to become, hence shaping your new identity, that would drive you to take positive actions, like reading great books, working our consistently, going to the dojo 2-3 times per week, getting up on time, going to bed on time, etc.
Acting like the person you want to be, or said another way, acting like the best version of you, will make you feel great! You will feel proud, confident, and invigorated.
Lynne Arlen is a 66-year-old 2nd Degree Black Belt at our school. She trains with her husband Bob, who is also a 2nd Degree Black Belt, their daughter and son-in-law, Nancy and Chuck Marchitello who both 2nd Degree Black Belts, and their grandchildren, Isabella and CJ who are both Black Belts.
Years ago, she was on the verge of osteoporosis. She just went to the doctor to have her bone density checked. The norm for someone her age is a -1. Lynne is at a +7!
The doctor said her active lifestyle has given her the bone density of a 40-year-old! Now her goal is to have the bone density of a 30-year-old. So, she’s getting even younger!!! And her husband, Bob, isn’t complaining at all!
Why did this happen? Lynne has changed her identity. She doesn’t see herself as a typical 66-year-old. She sees herself as a lean, mean, focused and fit 3rd Degree Black Belt! And there is not a doubt in my mind she will get there.
IDENTITY => ACTIONS => FEELINGS
When you adopt this formula overtime, magic happens! The compound effect takes over. Like Darren Hardy says in his book The Compound Effect, “The slightest adjustments to your daily routine can dramatically alter the outcomes in your life.”
It’s human nature to not want to get up on time. It’s human nature to want to stay on the couch and watch TV instead of working out. It’s human nature to want to skip your morning or evening run.
Remember…action creates motivation!
The motivation comes after the action, not before. Remind yourself of the person you want to be, then act like that person. When you do that, you will feel like the champion you are. You will feel like a super successful rock star that can make a difference in the world!
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